Women
are faced with pregnancy choices everyday. Choices like whether to
continue a pregnancy, end it by abortion, or end it because of
medical reasons. Here are a few real life stories from women who
choose different paths for different reasons.
My
decision to have the abortion procedure was different at first, when
I talked to the right people, I realized I was making the right
decision for myself. I had been accepted to a four year college, and
I was eager to discover a new life at a University. I realize now
that I wouldn’t have had the opportunities I do if I had not had an
abortion. I still think about my unborn child, however. I think
about the decision almost everyday. But I know that bringing up a
child when I was not physically, mentally, or emotionally ready for
motherhood would be completely unfair to my child. With adoption, it
is a lovely option, but I wouldn’t be able to go through with it;
just giving part of me away to someone. I want to have children
someday: the right way. The smart way. The fair way. I don’t feel
abortion is a crime. I also don’t think it is a moral act. It is
also immoral to use it as a common form of birth control. But I KNOW
that it is completely unfair for someone to try to take the right to
choose away from anyone. I’ve learned how important it is to take
responsibility for your actions, and make sure you are being smart
if you choose to be sexually active.
—Anonymous, 20
A
personal note: I was one of many that had a tubular, atopical
pregnancy. This is where my egg gets fertilized and is connected
inside the fallopian tube. Within six weeks the tube will break
open, and can result in removing the tubes, destroying the ovaries,
and even death. I was lucky to catch it and have a physician that
was able to take the fetus out and save the tube. Surgery alone is
always difficult, but this was like a hysterectomy with mood changes
from the hormones. So this was an abortion, by the very definition.
Did I kill a baby? Was this considered murder?
When I had my first child prior to this pregnancy, I had
this strong feeling that there was another child waiting. After the
tubular pregnancy and removal of the fetus, I still had the same
feeling. I was lucky to get pregnant and deliver a healthy baby a
few years later. I felt as if this was the same spirit haunting me
and wanting me to have him. When he was born when I was 40, I had my
tubes cut and tied, not wanting anymore children. What helps me deal
with losing a fetus is the belief that a child chooses his parents
for the life lessons they have to learn. I felt it was the same
spirit haunting me even though his soul didn’t get attached to the
first fetus. There are many painful events in life, and society
should not attach labels and accusations to women for terminating
their pregnancies.
— A Proud Mother
